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'I am' and 'have' changes how we relate (and what makes grammatical sense) to our autism/neurodivergent/ADHD like:

I am autistic
I have autism
I'm ADHD
I have ADHD
I am neurodivergent
I have neurodivergent

Or
I'm AuDHD
I have AuDHD

Which ones do you use the most to describe yourself?

I use:

I'm autistic
I'm ADHD
I'm neurodivergent

AuDHD is harder to explain what it means so I just say "I'm autistic and ADHD"

This is just a curious question to see what others use. 🙂

#ActuallyAutistic
#ADHD
#AuDHD
#neurodivergent

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Not exactly a ranty whine - but maybe a bit of one ...

Well - the stress levels in the building are rising dramatically 📈 tenants are sniping at one another and about one another, families are fighting as they help their parents and grandparents pack up -- it's really difficult for me to witness.

I am barely holding on to my own cool as I have to deal with so! many! people! every day as I prep myself for moving out next week. #AuDHD overload.

I am now unsure of how much to take because the hotel has the right to move us from apartment to apartment during our 4-6 month stay 😢

I barely slept last night because I didn't remember to take my pain meds until it was too late. So I now have many 4am lists.

I asked my contact at the housing authority for a lease amendment to get everything in writing - and she said we didn't need one. Oh my - au contraire my dear. So I have to decide if I have the spoons to push it.

It's a lot. I want to hide under the covers until it all goes away (it's not going to go away 😒)

Hey, fellow #neurodivergent folks! Especially fellow #AuDHD folks.

Do you have a flirt radar?
I do not.
I never know when anyone is flirting with me.
Almost all the time when it does happen, someone else has to point it out to me & even then, I usually don't see/understand what they're talking about.
I do not know how to flirt either.
I am very direct. In the past, my straight forward nature has intimidated many NTs & some NDs who haven't invested much time in getting to know me better.
I'm quite friendly & engaging with almost anyone whom I find interesting & seems to share similar core values. It doesn't matter what gender, if any, they identify with either.
My straight forward friendly style seems to make many CIS guys think I'm interested in more than platonic friendship, when I am not.
If I like anyone more than just a platonic friend, I am pretty open about telling them that, directly.
If I don't say it - don't assume more than I actually say. I have this thing called, emotional maturity.

I can't tell how many times executive dysfunction made my life worse. Its impossible to be reliable, to deliver things on time consistently, sooner or later I'm going to be surprised by my own inability to do the thing. And those who rely on me and my work will be disappointed or worse. How will I ever be able to manage that part of my brain?!? #AuDHD #ADHD

The hardest part about unmasking is developing the courage and resilience to act against the interest of another person (usually by upholding a personal boundary you've ignored so far) and to then strike the right balance in determining who deserves an explanation (because they actually want to listen) and who is a lost cause and just wants you to admit that you're wrong.

It's a really odd thing to go through when so far you've tried to please everyone. Who are you to put your judgement over the judgement of other people?

It's just occurred to me that phone chargers no longer scream as much as they used to.
Until relatively recently, a good number of "wall-wart" phone charger units emitted a high-pitched noise that most people couldn't hear. However, the #neurospicy amongst us, #Autistic, #ADHD and #AuDHD, often find it intrusive and uncomfortable.
However, I just realised I've not had a charger that caused a problem for 3 or 4 years.

And a new #Introduction to pin on the profile.

Hi, I'm luci. I'm an early transition aspiring #musician focusing on bass guitar. Currently moving to Nevada to reset for a few years to start HRT and get a formal education to get out of my accounting job.

I am diagnosed and unmedicated #AuDHD. I've had enough experience being misunderstood that I try to communicate as clear as possible and I appreciate people who do the same in return. If I come off as abrasive, see the above, and I'm being governed by shit eating fascists. Let me be cranky sometimes.

Mastodon is my primary means of making new friends, keeping up to date in current events, and learning about being #trans as I was raised in the south and didn't learn about this part of myself until I left to find more diverse communities.

I boost and favorite whatever sparks joy or looks like more people should see it. SW is a personal goal for when I'm happier with my body and will boost other SW's with content warnings.

"Until 2013, autism and ADHD couldn’t be diagnosed in the same person. Today, researchers have found that there is a 50 to 70 per cent crossover between these neurodevelopmental conditions, which is increasingly being referred to as AuDHD."

#LeanneMaskell, 2024

telegraph.co.uk/health-fitness

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#autism #ADHD #AuDHD

@adhd @actuallyautistic

The Telegraph · What it's like to live with ADHD and autismBy Leanne Maskell

I'm getting a lot out of the Neurodivergent Insights newsletter by Dr. Megan Anna Neff. For example, this post about the overlap of ADHD and autism:

neurodivergentinsights.com/mis

Dr. Neff is herself AuDHD who turned her hyperfocus on her neurotype into a PhD in psychology. She's also raising a neurodivergent kid with strong PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance, which she calls Pervasive Drive for Autonomy):

neurodivergentinsights.com/blo

friends with #ADHD / #AuDHD,
how do you get around the symptoms *without* medication?

everyone seems to recommend medication but since the waiting lists are so long here in the uk that i haven't got a diagnosis yet, so I don't have access to the medication

i have seen chocolate, energy drinks, caffeine, even cannabis, but none of them seem that great for your health

@adhd @actuallyadhd @actuallyaudhd @audhd

(sorry if im mentioning too many groups i have ZERO clue how social media works)

I hear pinning an #introduction post is the thing to do around here so here we go.
Hi, I’m Kaitlyn (she/her). I’m a stay at home mom to a toddler, living in Colorado with my wife. I am cis but heavily immersed in
#trans issues as my wife is trans. I’m a bit of a #history and #psychology nerd, and use my free time #sewing clothes for myself and playing cozy #VideoGames like Power Wash Simulator and Sea of Thieves (sounds less cozy, I know, but I pride myself on my ship parking skills). I used to work (read: hold a volunteer position) in the local #greyhounds community and before that was an English teacher. I am undiagnosed but probably #audhd, as well as #demisexual (shall we say #lesbian presenting?). I am currently involved in my local #QueerChurch and love reading about #QueerTheology (but hate arguing for it). My preferred online engagement can probably be summed up best as “people watching” so don’t mind me, stealthily scrolling past your posts, slowly growing my parasocial relationship with you in secret 👀

ADHD makes me forgetful, out of sight is out of mind. I procrastinate an unhealthy amount but the pressure of having to do stuff because my To-Do list screams at me then triggers demand avoidance. Shame and guilt trigger me into obsessive last-minute solutions that my perfectionism cannot tolerate.

Which of course means, I’m the worst human to ever human.

…hold on…

….am i even human???

*screams in AuDHD*

#actuallyautistic #AuDHD #ADHD
@actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd