'I am' and 'have' changes how we relate (and what makes grammatical sense) to our autism/neurodivergent/ADHD like:

I am autistic
I have autism
I'm ADHD
I have ADHD
I am neurodivergent
I have neurodivergent

Or
I'm AuDHD
I have AuDHD

Which ones do you use the most to describe yourself?

I use:

I'm autistic
I'm ADHD
I'm neurodivergent

AuDHD is harder to explain what it means so I just say "I'm autistic and ADHD"

This is just a curious question to see what others use.

#ActuallyAutistic
#ADHD
#AuDHD
#neurodivergent

Autistic community, tell me where are you at with "high functioning labels" and the term "Asperger" why are you against these or for them?

#autistic
#autism #actuallyautistic
#Neurodivergent #Neurodiversity #neurodivergence #AuDHD

Can anyone recommend a therapist that fits the following criteria:

1) Man who was growing up in the 80s.

2) Audiophile and/or film nerd and/or gamer.

3) Does EMDR.

4) Excellent knowledge of neurodivergence.

5) Trauma informed.

Hey, fellow #neurodivergent folks! Especially fellow #AuDHD folks.

Do you have a flirt radar?
I do not.
I never know when anyone is flirting with me.
Almost all the time when it does happen, someone else has to point it out to me & even then, I usually don't see/understand what they're talking about.
I do not know how to flirt either.
I am very direct. In the past, my straight forward nature has intimidated many NTs & some NDs who haven't invested much time in getting to know me better.
I'm quite friendly & engaging with almost anyone whom I find interesting & seems to share similar core values. It doesn't matter what gender, if any, they identify with either.
My straight forward friendly style seems to make many CIS guys think I'm interested in more than platonic friendship, when I am not.
If I like anyone more than just a platonic friend, I am pretty open about telling them that, directly.
If I don't say it - don't assume more than I actually say. I have this thing called, emotional maturity.

real

Proposing "neurosupremacy" as a term where people of a certain neurotype (neurodivergent or neurotypical) hold their neurotype to be better than others as a form of bigotry. (Assuming it is not already in use for that reason.)

We have some forms of this in the "asperger's/aspie supremacy" phrase but this broadens it to be usable for any neurotype, including neurotypical or allistic.

May be useful where "ableism" may not be an accurate fit.

The hardest part about unmasking is developing the courage and resilience to act against the interest of another person (usually by upholding a personal boundary you've ignored so far) and to then strike the right balance in determining who deserves an explanation (because they actually want to listen) and who is a lost cause and just wants you to admit that you're wrong.

It's a really odd thing to go through when so far you've tried to please everyone. Who are you to put your judgement over the judgement of other people?

Kind.Social is a general Mastodon server with a community consisting heavily of queer, disabled, and neurodivergent users. We strive to foster a genuinely enjoyable shared social experience, so come check us out, and we hope to make you feel welcome!

https://kind.social

You can find out more at https://kind.social/about or contact the admin @Texan_Reverend

The kindle version of my book is still 1.99 until March 11th! 2 days left!

A Guide to Autism and Psychosis

https://mybook.to/autpsychosisguide

#ActuallyAutistic #autism #Autistic #ADHD #AuDHD #neurodiversity #neurodivergent #MentalHealth @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy @mentalhealth@a.gup.pe @mentalhealth@newsmast.community @mentalhealth@lemmy.world @bookstodon

It's amazing how fast I can go from "my hair looks really cute down today" to "OMG I can feel it on my neck. Ponytail! Ponytail! Now!"

You don't need to go to work in a costume when you're already constantly masking, right?

Guess what!! Silva has been working on some Black Butler art

Finnian is the first one but they've got more cooking! Keep an eye on this space and our website to see when they come out

https://silvarain.co.uk/

The language we use to describe systematic bigotry is important.

Only ever using the words 'minority' or 'minorities' to describe demographics that are subject to systematic bigotry and the inequality/lack of resources/widespread misinformation that comes alongside it can lead people to believe that to some degree the harms done are just an inherent thing that will always happen to a group that makes up only X percent of the population. Even people who know purposeful harms are being done are likely to subconsciously assign some part of the blame for the situation to inescapable ignorance by the masses because of the size of the group affected.

I’m not saying the word minority is not often accurate in these situations or that there aren’t any contexts where it is the best word to choose, but a lot of the time it is more meaningful to use language that reminds people that those with social/political power are purposefully choosing to say/do things and create societal systems that harm the demographic in question.

The two words I personally feel are the most productive and powerful to use when discussing systematic harm (and also apply if the demographic experiencing these things is not a numerical minority, ie women) are:

marginalized, which Merriam-Webster dictionary defines as “to relegate to an unimportant or powerless position within a society or group”

or

disenfranchised (which Merriam-Webster dictionary defines as “deprived of some right, privilege, or immunity”)

Both of these terms can be used *both* to describe the groups being harmed (ie ‘people with marginalized identities are being attacked’ or ‘disenfranchised communities need your help’) OR to directly describe the harm being done (ie ‘the disenfranchisement/marginalization of X group is something everyone with privilege has a moral obligation to fight against in whatever ways they can’)

I say this all as a member of many demographics that are minorities, but more importantly that are being actively and purposefully marginalized and disenfranchised by people who want us to keep us from having any social, financial, or political power.

The language we use has the power to highlight the reality of privilege and power in our world or to inadvertently downplay it and allow people to just accept it as the unavoidable status quo.

We need to be as purposeful about the words we choose when explaining harm to our communities- the people with power trying to keep us down sure as hell are.

New instance so new intro post time:

Hi! I'm Jack (they/them). I'm a nonbinary sociology nerd with a bunch of disabilities, a bunch of tattoos, and a degree in queer research/education/history.

I mostly post about things relating to queerness, disability/mental illness, neurodivergency, and my wonderful little family (which consists of my absurdly sweet butch wife, two adorable dogs, and sassy super senior cat).

I'm always happy to find new people to interact with/befriend/add to my community on here!

and... I have *still* not found a way to end an intro post that doesn’t feel super awkward so I'm just stick with having these tiny queer cats dance me out :blobCat_party:​ :blobCat_party:​ :blobCat_party:​

:boost_ok:​

PSA

I do not agree with, support, or in any way endorse dismissing peoples’ lived experiences. I’ve experienced too much of that myself, and I’ll bet you have, too. I can’t stand it and try not to do it.

My AuDHD brain essentially has three scripts for.meeting new people and basically none of them are what one might call "socially appropriate"

#ActuallyAutistic #autism #Autistic #ADHD #AuDHD #neurodiversity #neurodivergent @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy @neurodiversity @audhd

"Need help?"
"No I am fine"

I have said this before, but once more with feeling: where are the parenting guides for ADHD/autistic parents?

Like, no one thinks they exist?
Or is it just a "deal with it" situation?
Or something else?...